One of my favorite words since I’ve been in this Age of Enlightenment period of my life is the word “accountability”.
Websters Dictionary defines accountability as an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions. The main thing that we all need to take from that definition is “willingness to accept responsibility”
When I was in the unhappy stage of my life, I noticed that I blamed everyone for everything instead of taking accountability and, as the kids say, taking my L.
I blamed God for not answering my prayers fast enough. I blamed my mom for working too much and not being able to talk to me. I blamed my sperm donor dad for not being a father to me. I blamed my friends for not checking on me every second of everyday. I blamed my Myleeza Kardash persona for blowing up too big and putting too much attention on me. I blamed my family for being too busy with their lives to make sure I was okay while living away from everyone. I blamed literally EVERYONE for literally EVERYTHING.
One day after I popped my anti-depressant and I had this epiphany. It came to me like a Raven Baxter type vision. I asked myself, “At what point are things going to become YOUR fault instead of it being OTHER people’s fault?” In other words, at what point was I going to become accountable for my own life and my own mistakes? I give myself credit when I’m doing well, so why can’t I take ownership when I start fucking up?
Boom. My life changed after that.
Being accountable for your mistakes is probably the highest form of maturity. Making excuses for yourself and putting the blame on other people is the easy, and quite frankly, the coward way out. That’s why I’m so against people depending on celebrities to raise their children. Parents should be accountable as parents to raise their own kids and teach them right from wrong. It’s not on Kim Kardashian, Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, Cardi B, or other celebrities to raise your children.
I mean yeah it’s hard to accept your mistakes. Trust me, I know! But, at some point we all have to do it. Life actually forces us to do it!
So the next time you’re in a funk and your find yourself blaming other people, ask yourself “When are things ever going to become my fault?”