I often give advice, motivational speeches, pep talks, and everything else you can think of. However, there comes a time where you have to put everything else to the side and work on YOU.
In the class that I teach, we spoke about procrastination and how it literally, well figuratively, eats away at our productivity. I had my students talk about ways that they procrastinate. Of course, they said high school things like go to the YMCA instead of doing their homework or taking the long way back from the office instead of going back to class to do their assignment. One student then asked me “Ms. Myleeza, how do you procrastinate?”
I had to think for a second. I mean yeah I procrastinate by checking all my social media apps and taking naps when I have so much to do; you know the way most people procrastinate, but I know that there was one form of procrastination that I didn’t want to admit that effects me on a daily basis.
My biggest form of procrastination is self doubt.
I prolong things and drag them out, not because I don’t have a plan set it in place and not because I’m not confident in myself, but simply because I think too much and too hard into it, which eventually leads to me doubting and second guessing myself.
A perfect example is me moving to Los Angeles .
I wanted to move to Los Angeles right after I graduated from college. I was only 21, but I felt like I was at the peak of my “Myleeza Kardash’dom” and it was the perfect time for me to move. I doubted myself and moved to Houston instead and said I would move to LA when I matured a little more because I just wasn’t ready. Self doubt.
I realized Houston wasn’t for me and I thought to myself, “This is the perfect time to move to LA! New city. Fresh start!” Did I move? Nope. I moved back to Louisiana instead. Self doubt.
The cycle of me wanting to move to LA, but still doubting myself is even continuing to this very day. My best friend, Joiya, even said that she would move to LA with me, yet I still declined because I doubted myself.
This doesn’t just go for me wanting to move to LA, this also goes for so many other aspects of my life like restarting this blog, I doubted myself. I doubted myself when starting the Myleeza Kardash store. I doubted myself when starting the “Girl That Damn Myleeza” podcast.
So what do you do when self doubt eats away from your productivity? Surround yourself with people that are going to stayon your ass. Simple as that. My friends stayed on my ass about getting this website back booming. Noah from TKD stayed on my ass about starting an online store. My college friends are currently on my ass about getting this podcast back popping. Having friends that verbally state how they support you and believe in you is the most effective way to shake that self doubt. Sometimes you just need to hear “I believe in you.” to make you realize that the people you love actually have your back.
Most importantly, you have to believe in yourself. You only get one life. Don’t be that person that grows old still thinking “what if?”