10 Ways to Help Someone Living with a Mental Illness

Now that the cat is out of the bag about my mental illness, I want to give you some tips about how to help or be there for a family member/friend that is also dealing with depression, anxiety, or any other mental health problem.

  1. Do NOT and I mean DO NOT say “Just get over it.” “Just be happy.” “Just get out of the house.” “Just get up.” All of those things are so much easier said than done when suffering from any mental illness.
  2. When they talk, listen. Listen without responding. Just listen. A lot of times they just want to talk and need someone to simply listen.
  3. Send random texts just to check on them to see how they’re doing. An “Aye wassup? You good?” text can go such a long way.
  4. Do NOT downplay their mental illness by saying “It’s just a condition.” That’s like saying pneumonia is just a common cold.
  5. Offer them support by asking “What can I do to help you through this?”
  6. Do NOT automatically assume that if a person is suffering from a mental illness, they are considered “crazy”. That stigma itself is one the main reasons why people avoid seeking help. A lot of times, people with mental illnesses just have a harder time dealing with certain things and doing certain activities that the next person may find easy.
  7. If they need a break and ditch going to a certain event that they said they would attend, don’t make them feel bad about it. I was called “lame” and a “flop” so many times because I backed out on doing things because I was dealing with my illness.
  8. Do NOT make them feel guilty or bad for the way that they are dealing with their illness. There is a way to offer support without sounding judgmental. I hate when people ask me “So you’ve been in the bed all day?”, “So that’s literally all you do all day?”, or “Omg you’re sleep again?”
  9. Always speak about positive things when you talk to them. Any negative story can literally drain every ounce of energy out of our bodies to the point that we feel worst than before.
  10. Never joke about or disrespect what they’ve gone through. Having a mental illness is hard enough and hearing you throw jabs at it only makes things even tougher. Always be kind.

I hope this helps you,

Myleeza

Your Roaring 20s

When a person in their 20s is portrayed on TV, it’s usually shown as the stage where you either have it all together or everything is falling apart. There’s literally no in between. Most kids, including myself, are so excited to reach our 20s. You can legally drink, get even more freedom, you’re no longer considered a child, and did I mention you can legally drink? Oh I did? Oops.

The truth is your 20s is the age you wholeheartedly find yourself. I know. I know. People said say that about every age, but I truly believe that your 20s are some of the most important years of your life. Your “Roaring 20s”, as I like to call them, sets the pace for what your life will be; all while learning so much about life as an adult.

Personally speaking, I’m super early in my 20s. I’m only 22 and I don’t turn 23 until August, but I’ve learned more about myself in these 2 years than I have from my all of my teen years COMBINED.

Your 20s is basically the last years you can totally fuck up and everything will be okay because you’re still young and learning. Your 20s is the age of experimenting. Wanna be a thot for a lil bit? Do it. I know I did!

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Wanna travel and take random trips across the country or even international? Go for it. Thinking about moving out of state just for the hell of it? Go head pimp! Wanna stack ya bread and crash with your parents for a few more years? That’s cool! Even if you wanna skip the craziness and just get married and start a family, that’s acceptable as well!

Anything goes in your 20s! You’re not too old and you’re not too young.  It’s the perfect age to learn about yourself as a individual because a lot of times we subconsciously lose track of who we are by trying to keep up with the next person via our social media feeds.

So, to all my readers in the midst of this tornado called your 20s and you feel like you are flopping SO badly, trust me; you’re not. I’m with you. No matter how much you may think Myleeza has it all together; trust me, I don’t. We’re all learning, living, and winging this shit a year at a time.

Logging out,

Myleeza

Issa Mental Health Update

So, it’s been a few months since I dropped the bomb that I’ve been dealing with mental health issues. Boy did it feel good to get that off my chest. I’ve never been the type to hide anything. I like leaving everything on the table and keep it pushing. I just wanted to give you guys an update.

First things first, I want to thank Houston Psychiatry for saving my life. My psychiatrist, Ms. Gwen, was amazing. If you’re in the Houston area and seeking help, please look into Houston Psychiatry.

Despite my tweets talking about what I’ve been going through, please understand that I’m feeling and doing much better. Everyday is a struggle, but I feel better. I know this is cliche, but when dealing with mental issues, you literally have to take life a day at a time. Anything else will overwhelm you.

I was diagnosed with a mood disorder, which is basically the beginning stages of Bipolar Disorder. Living with a Bipolar Disorder is tough. It’s more mentally draining than anything. Let me give you an example of a week with this disorder:

4 days out of the week I feel amazing, invincible, and untouchable. I feel like I can do things that are almost impossible to do like start a business in a day and do dangerous things and not get hurt. I feel like I don’t need sleep. I’ll feel like no one can tell me shit because I know more than you. This is usually when I go on my “Myleeza Rants”. It’s like you get these random, outrageous boosts of energy.

Then the rest of the week, I feel so depressed. I feel the lowest that I ever felt. I feel like a burden, useless, a flop and a failure, that nothing will ever go right for me again. I don’t eat. I sleep all day. I cry a lot. I just feel like a fuck up.

Right after that, I’m back feeling invincible.

Now, imagine living life like that. It mentally exhausts me so much. Luckily, I’m taking the steps to get better and learn how to live with it.

The ways I deal with it is by talking about it. I know my friends get tired of me talking about it, but it makes me feel so much better, plus that’s what friends are for. My friends have been so understanding through it all. I take my medication that calms me down and keeps me level. (S/o to that Abilify) Lastly, I hang around kids. Kids are so funny and innocent. Hearing their conversations crack me up. My little cousins are my best friends.

I want everyone that is dealing with mental issues to know that there is a light down the tunnel. Will you be miraculously healed? No, but there is a way to feel better. You don’t have to see-saw back and forth. There is a way to be stable; it just takes time. Don’t hide what you have. Tell your friends and family members that you are close to what you’re going through. Don’t have any close friends or family? Contact me. We can talk. I want to help you the same way someone helped me.

Thanks for all the love!

Logging out,

Myleeza

That Damn Myleeza: Touch the Sky

As I announced on Twitter, I have started my very own podcast named “That Damn Myleeza”! I wanted to give ya’ll an introduction and run-down of what That Damn Myleeza will consist of. The name of each podcast will be a song title that describes the podcast. Each song will make an “album”. There will be 8 songs on each album. The introduction podcast is named “Touch the Sky”.  The first episode will be July 3rd featuring Reotta and Gigi, two of my mentors. Click and listen below and prepared to be entertained every Monday or every other Monday by me and my squad!